Insert cliche here: “How did she get so old?”
Yeah, kinda crazy that she’s been around for 4 whole months already. When she was first born, I thought the holidays were SO far away because it was, after all, August. Fast forward 17 weeks and a few days and here we are, 5 days away from Christmas! Let’s get goin’ on the info for this update…before my commentary. :)
As of Tuesday – at her 4 months well child check – she is 24.5″ (55th %ile) and 12 lbs 10 oz (20th %ile). As noted in her 2 month update, she was in the 90th %ile for length and 30th %ile for weight so she definitely not stayed on the same pace as she did from her newborn check to the 2 month mark but that’s a-okay with our pediatrician so I’m a happy mama!
The fun has definitely begun. She now smiles on a more regular basis – and in response to our smiling or silly voices – which makes interacting with her so much more enjoyable. More on that later. You want to know what she’s up to so here ya go!
Tummy time: she L-O-V-E-S tummy time. I’ve heard from some moms that their kids scream to be flipped over/picked up/etc as soon as they get put down on their stomach but she doesn’t seem to mind too much. Her record is 20 minutes…pretty awesome. She even likes to read while hangin’ out on her play mat (see first pic below!). We like to take turns laying down next to her and encouraging her to reach out with her hands to play while on her tummy – coaches/teachers at heart, we’re always working on something with her.
Rolling over: she’s started doing this on her own but only once a day or so. I gotta remind myself this is how it started with smiling too: slow and steady. Pretty fun though cuz I’ll put her on her tummy and she’ll push up with one arm too hard and accidentally roll herself over. It takes a little convincing to keep her from crying (she gets surprised and the scared when she realizes she isn’t in the same orientation!). She also will roll from back to front and that is really impressive.
Smiling: oh, this is the best. Seriously. And laughing. Even though it’s not the belly laugh that she’ll eventually have, it is so sweet and wonderful and gratifying even though all we have to do to get her to smile is play peek-a-boo in the mirror (or from behind a towel…check out the video at the bottom of the post!).
Sitting up: gotta love the Bumbo. She also does a great job sitting up if we hold her hands or her torso. It is super fun to put the Bumbo in the middle of the table when we’re eating (DON’T WORRY – we don’t leave her unattended!). You may have seen her in the Bumbo checking out the Christmas tree but she also liked having crepes with us and our good friends who came up to visit a few weeks ago (check out the second pic below).
Still dairy-free: totally a bummer but the couple times I’ve tried to have a bit here and there – a sneak of butter, bite of cheese, etc – let’s just say her diapers are harder to clean and her crankiness skyrockets. Plus the eczema on her forehead comes back…sheesh. I did cheat today and had my first egg nog chai of the holiday season. If you’ve ever known me around Christmas, you’ll know that having my first ChEg on December 20th is absolutely ridiculous. I just couldn’t wait any longer and I knew that I couldn’t go an entire holiday season without one soooooooo I’ll take the awful-mother-of-the-week award. But I would like to defend myself in saying that for Thanksgiving, I pumped a ton of milk the two weeks leading up to the food-laden holiday so that I could eat whatever and not hurt her. My mother-in-law loved it because she got to feed her for 2 days!
Workin’ hard: Ben has been awesome in providing for our family, staying after school to run homework help and do chemical inventory work, both bringing a significant amount of overtime. I am so grateful for such a diligent husband who is willing to work extra so that I can stay home with Serafina this year. The rowing season ended at the beginning of November just in time for basketball to start, two things I do not only because I loves the sports and love to coach but also because it helps with cash flow. Let’s face it, teachers don’t teach for the money nor do coaches coach for it…
Livin’ and lovin’: life with an infant is definitely an adventure. And let’s just say that when you’re
tiredexhausted and overworked (at home-work with Serafina or at work-work with students), there’s not much energy left to cultivate your marital relationship. However – now that I’ve been very honest with you – that hasn’t stopped us from working on it. Thankfully we have the support of a Bible study focused on marriage that we’ve been in since we got married over 4 years ago. Two of the couples have kids older than Serafina so they are a great resource for the marriage questions/issues that come up between us as well as a wonderful encouragement.
Just a few weeks ago we had dessert with one of the couples and they told us to never make any big decisions in the first 3-4 months after a baby is born because that is when you’re the most tired and thinking the least clearly. Thank God for them! Something that really struck me in our
conversationmini counseling session was how they looked at each other as they talked about these trying times in their lives – and the love in their eyes made me want to cry with joy. Someday that will be Ben and I…but for now I can look at Ben the same way and be so grateful that we are committed to love each other through babies crying all night, puking all day, and one very cranky wife who still can’t eat dairy. Did I mention how much I miss cheese and egg nog chais?
It’s so absolutely clear how important Jesus is in all of this. Though John Eldredge is definitely not my favorite author – since he could say in 10 pages what he says in his 200 page books – he and his wife Stasi point out in their book Love and War, “Asking for your marriage to flourish without God is like asking a tree to bloom without sunshine and water.” I completely agree. We have definitely been reminded of this in Serafina’s first 4 months and I am actually really glad that we’ve had trials because our marriage is stronger now and so much more real than it was. Too many people skate through their marriage and just coexist rather than really live life together and really love each other and we refuse to be one of those couples. It simply took a little shake up – okay, world changer – like a baby to bring it on!
One last thing…
Actually, no, I think that’s good enough for now. But please enjoy this last little video of the cutey-cute-ster hanging out with me and playing peek-a-boo.
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