This is part of a 31 day series of shepherding a child’s heart in 5 minutes a day (click here for the series intro). I pray this series edifies you as much as reading Tripp’s book has encouraged and challenged my husband and I in how we raise our children. Subscribe to the blog in the side bar if you’d like to get posts emailed to you in a weekly digest or subscribe on your favorite blog reader.
The next two shaping influences Tripp lists as having a profound effect on a child’s development are roles within a family and how members in a family resolve conflict. Both of these require potentially difficult conversations that will be most fruitful with time and work.
What role does each member of your family play? Does each child have a defined role? It is important to take time, if you haven’t already, to take a step back from your daily routine and identify these roles with your spouse. In our family, I pay the bills but my husband enters them along with other transactions in our budget software. Or perhaps there are roles as simple as who feeds the cat (our 2 year old is solely responsible for that!).
Family Conflict Resolution
This one is difficult because it’s such a touchy subject between people. Often, we fight about how we fight (at least I know that we have…). Another conversation you’d want to have with your spouse is about how you resolve conflict. Questions you can think about on your own and then discuss with your family (especially if you have children old enough to participate) are: do you bury your problems, bottle them up? Do you know how to talk about your problems as a family? Can you resolve issues between members of your family?
These aren’t necessarily easy things to do but will help your family through the parenting adventure. We thankfully have already had the opportunity to have both of these conversations while our oldest is just a toddler rather than having to address it later on.
I hope that now, a week in to this walk through Shepherding a Child’s Heart, you are encouraged but also challenged to improve your biblical parenting skills.